Woman Stands Up To Husband After His Female Coworker Is Introduced As His ‘Work Girlfriend’, Husband Then Suggests Naming Their Baby After Her: ‘I called him out’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Sep 22, 2024 7:00 PM EDT

Every lady's worst nightmare is hearing the dreaded term, "work wife." Who came up with it, and how much truth does it actually hold?

A commenter under the post in this story claims that the only reason the term exists is because other employees observe a possible budding relationship between two coworkers. So, it's likely that there is either a mischaracterization of closeness between the two, or, there is a real possibility that something romantic is going down. Either way, if you're in a monogamous relationship, these accusations (false or otherwise) are like a life sentence to your partner. One doesn't want to think that their significant other is cozying up to another coworker during work hours. Especially when your partner goes on rants about how much they dislike this coworker. More often than not, this is a sneaky method of avoiding talking about how you feel the opposite of hate.

The original poster (OP) of this story is dealing with this exact issue. Her husband has been mentioning a woman who works with him and continue to talk about all of the traits he dislikes about her. The woman finds slightly intimate photos of her on his phone, but he still denies their closeness. On OP's birthday, she visits her husband at his workplace and one of his coworkers refers to the possible "other woman" as his "work girlfriend." OP rightfully confronts her husband after months of suspicion, and they agree that he will no longer nurture this relationship with his female coworker.

Well, it seems she is still on his mind. Upon talking about baby names for their future child, the husband suggests they name their child after no other than the "work girlfriend." Scroll to read the entire story.

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    In October I found a picture of her in his gallery, it was the latest photo in his phone and it was B his POV standing in front of her while she was crouching down and he took the photo from above her, she was mid laughing. It was a really intimate photo and
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    My husband suggested naming our future kid after his work wife
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    When this lady, Kelly joined his company a couple years ago, I heard him tell me that upon first impression he did not like her at all. That's a red flag to me as he's never done that towards anyone before. I've done this in the past with an ex so as to not raise any
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  • 04
    suspicion that I actually found a friend kind of attractive. He's was her before they even got a chance to speak saying she's stuck up or something. I called him out on it but didn't wanna make it too big a deal, I didn't want him to overthink it and actually develop feelings for her.
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    Then throughout the months they actually got close but he always tells me they arent. I know they were just from how he reacted. He also made stickers of her candid photo to tease her and
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    joked with her through texting sometimes which was out of character for him. My girl intuition was going off. For some reason I still thought I shouldn't make it a big deal.
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    In October I found a picture of her in his gallery, it was the latest photo in his phone and it was B his POV standing in front of her while she was crouching down and he took the photo from above her, she was mid laughing. It was a really intimate photo and
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    I asked him, "are you close to Kelly?" without him knowing I saw the photo. And he said he and Kelly are the least closest and Kelly sort of hates him. That rung so many bells. Shortly after I checked and the same photo was in his Recently Deleted folder.
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    He then wanted to set a new profile photo. It was of him in this event taken by a professional, while he was working. She was of course candidly in the background. While he was setting it I noticed he made sure that she
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    was cropped in the display and he also noticed I looked really shocked and scared and he decided he didn't want to change his photo after all. Then on my birthday this year while I was visited him at work,
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    his male colleague actually joked with me introducing me to this girl saying she's my husbands work wife. My husband didn't know about this. Few months later I told him about it and he got really mad. He told me that his colleague was just playing with
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    me and to not believe it. I told him I really hate this girl and I hate that he acts like I'm crazy about it and I know he thinks she's cute and I went bat crazy on him after holding it in for so long I absolutely exploded on him.
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    For a while, he acknowledged he wasn't right for having this secretly intimate friendship with another girl. He actually would stay a distance from her and stopped texting her unless about work. No more photos of them next to each other in every work
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    event. When I visit, they both don't seem to talk much as well (although I still feel insecure about that, they may just be acting because I am around). Then 2 weeks ago, we were talking about having children and special names for if we have a girl
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    or a boy. He said he knows and suggested maybe we can name our child Kelly if it was a boy. He was trying to not sound sus and he said "wouldn't it be cool? People assume Kelly is a girls name but it is a guys name too, let's do that". I looked at him in
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    complete disbelief. He asked me what's wrong and I said "are you serious?". He acted dumb and asked again saying he doesn't understand. I told him "you know I don't her". He shut up about it. like
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    It's been 2 weeks since and he's been trying to cheer me up and I've been pretending that I'm ok and over it. In all honesty, I think about it and I'm not sure if I can ever get over this. To be fair, I've met the girl. I don't think she's trying to steal him. But I do think
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    he has a crush and is willing to lie about it. I called him out from time to time for not being committed to me when he was the one who wanted me to marry him. I'm not sure how to get over this. I really want to.
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    EDIT: sorry. I just noticed I said work wife. His colleague actually said work girlfriend. Not sure what I want to gain out of posting this. Someone to tell me it's ok and to keep living life maybe. I'm just really upset and wanted to rant maybe.
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    Organic2003 · 10h ago wife! I can't stand the term work I suggest you two read a book "Not Just Friends" by Shirley Glass Ya the naming your kid after his affair partner is terrible. I hope this is "just" an emotional affair.
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    Mouse-Direct · 10h ago . You're not overreacting. I wondered how the name thing was going to come up and I was still shocked at the way he did it. This is suspicious as I. I'm so sorry.
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    IAmOnly 5ftTall OP 10h ago • Yes. He was extremely inconsiderate about my feelings. He tried to say it wouldn't be Kelly, it would be Kellie. I told him respectfully to leave me alone. He's been apologetic and careful since.
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    Equal_Push_565 • 9h ago | Speaking as someone who has had a "work wife" in the past, can tell you that term doesn't come out of nowhere. It becomes a thing when other coworkers notice how close 2 people are. If the friend called her a "work wife/girlfriend," there was a reason for it. And your husband has been lying to you the whole time.
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    Let's not even mention your husband's photos... You need to do some more investigating. Maybe find proof that he can't deny. Then decide if he's someone you really want have kids with.
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    onetrickpony4u • 7h ago . He's definitely having an emotional affair. Even if it's one sided it's a huge disrespect to you. When are you going to confront him with the pics you found on his phone? You might as well unleash everything and get this over with.
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